emotional health

Energetic Connection; is there such a thing? Yes, meet Mo

Mo is like a customer service rep for the universe. Think Santa Clause idea, a ‘man’ who hears what you want for Christmas … you get what you wanted IF you’ve been good and you don’t get it IF you’ve been bad.

Have you ever thought, who defines, good? who defines, bad? Is the definition based on religion? On how we were brought up?

We can process these as we did with excellence and perfection. Where do you set the ‘bar’ for good, and where is it set for ‘bad?’

Meet Mo: I go to Mo and ask for a new car, a healed relationship, a happy life, a loving relationship, a new house, better health, more money ….. you name it, whatever we ask for, the order goes to Mo. He submits the order to the universe but then our thoughts cancel it out over and over. The minute we think a thought that takes us out of creation energy, our order is canceled.

Can you see how and why we don’t get the things we seek? It’s our fault! Because Mo is taking YOUR order and YOU cancel it. Frustrating uh?

I’m sure most of you are thinking Mo is God. Not quite, Mo is like God but for this writing, Mo is God’s employee. Mo follows and upholds God’s laws, Universal laws, or Spiritual laws, whatever you resonate to call your higher power. Creation energy follows these laws too!

Now let’s put all these pieces together.

Creation energy = Universal law. Everything is creation energy – all the good, bad, positive, negative, light, or dark aspects of this world ~ Please read that again IF you’ve ever felt like you’ve failed (or fell) from perfection or personal expectation.

I’m going to include an experience I had several years ago to explain this, I call it my ‘Four Almond’ story. I was on a diet and I was to follow a very strict food list and almonds were not on that list. It was a stressful few days, and I found myself wallowing in self-blame because in my mind I failed in following this diet. I deviated from what was ‘right.’ I did something bad. What makes this so silly now, not so much then, but I had followed this diet exactly for several days but this one day I put four almonds in my mouth and the feelings of failure were overwhelming. I attached an interpretation that almonds were bad, they didn’t fit the regulation of the diet. We do this often with religious teachings. I placed a condition on my success and I punished myself with judgment.

My husband asked what was going on and he just didn’t get what the problem was in eating four almonds. Nothing I said made sense to him, he kept telling me to get over it, which was the best thing he could say because it was like slapping me out of my downward spiral, because my spirit was clinging onto that shadow side of perfection and expectation. ALL of this experience was part of creation energy. All the good, bad, positive, negative, light and dark aspects of this is part of creation energy. An important shift in keeping Mo’s attention is to understand embracing all sides and not giving power to those parts that I added unnecessary emotional weight on. The word Atonement fits here, because AT that ONE moment when I realized the weighted emotions of failure was part of my journey, not the destination. I was NOT failing. I am NOT a failure. I am a spiritual being living a physical experience.

We all have different ways of interpretation for perfection, excellence, good and bad. We each have a unique filter on how we see, understand, and interpret life – yes, there’s a personality test for these too.

We live in this physical world within a spectrum of meaning. We live in a world of duality. Awareness of this brings an understanding of where we are, where we think we need to be, and what motivates us to get there. We are students in this classroom, I call life.

To be fair to yourself, progress is much like strength training. You start out with a lighter weight and over time, you've become accostomed to a heavier weight. Your strength has been increasing through action.

This sounds easy for the upholder but it sounds daunting for a rebel. I believe it all comes down to HOW you frame your desires ... hint, hint, something important to know with Mo's language of Creation energy.

An upholder frames the desire to meet expectations and the rebel may frame this desire to be strong. Can you hear the difference?

I've added this graph to show you how progress is measured. When we seek to become even better today than yesterday we do all the right things for an hour, day, week, or month but doing all the 'right' things is not sustainable. We live in a world of opposition, and that means you can be doing all the right things but then do a lot of wrong things AND still be ok.

Give yourself time to ponder all this and see how it fits with where you are. Remember, just BE you! it's enough.

Sending love and light your way,

Jody

Energetic Connection; is that even a real thing?

Part one:

What does excellence mean to you?

What does perfection mean to you?

These are important questions to answer! We all strive to become better but why does it feel so difficult to do so? Why is it so hard for us to see any progression, or at least to recognize progression for the goals or desires we seek?

This word prompted me to find a visual that represented how we might perceive what we do consciously and non-consciously. I found the 'high' bar photo. We set our 'bar' to what we believe is meant for excellence and perfection, according to us, right?

Think about it, if I strive to lose weight to get to that perfect weight I believe I am to be, I set my bar to a number I seek to hit. Yes, technically that bar would be lowered because the numbers would decrease but you get my point, right?

Now, how do I go about accomplishing my goal? This is where Grethchen's book comes in and triggered my analytical mind.

Let's start at the beginning. I just finished reading the book, "The Four Tendencies" by Gretchen Rubin ~ here's a link to buy it if this resonates with you, and NO, I don't get any kind of kickback if you do decide to purchase it. I'm simply sharing this book with you in case you wanted to learn more about what I'm going to be talking about.

It is a different kind of personality book, and of course, I love that kind of stuff! I am fascinated with HOW people work, what influences them, and what makes the difference in whether they progress or stall out with desires.

Gretchen researched how people react to following through or is there more to this word, expectation?

Not to spoil the book but I have to at least share with you what I'm talking about, right? I'll summarize and you can read more in detail. It's a well done book! I enjoyed it.

I'll take one or two of her examples to explain.

I'm an upholder. Apparently, this is a rare personality trait. IF I fit this perfectly, I would meet external expectations (I would meet a deadline, time commitments etc) AND I'd meet my inner expectations (I would meet a commitment I made to myself. If I make a goal to drink more water, I drink more water.) My everyday life is like a programed machine.

I'm also part Rebel. Most of the time, I'm an upholder and I have no problem doing all that I want to do. I'm very structured, which people seem to think I have life all figured out but for me that's just a natural way of life. The rebel part of me doesn't like to meet external expectations OR my inner expectations. I only do what I want, not what others or myself for that matter, expect of me. I can flip off life some days and feel really good about it. Now, this doesn't happen often as an upholder but it could happen daily as a rebel.

The shadow side of expectation is equal to the original words, perfection and excellence. We uphold expectations the same as perfection and excellence. We've created a self imposed 'bar' to meet, and on the shadow side, something we believe GOD will meet IF we do 1, 2, or 3. An expectation is an attachment to an outcome. The shadow side holds conditions, self-imposed conditions.

That's an interesting word. Expectation.

Do we hold an inner desire to meet God's expectations to become as perfect as we can in this life? Do we hold an inner desire to meet society's view of what excellence means? Or do we reject what is given because it doesn't meet our expectation of what it should be?

Let me share with you what I mean by energetic statistics. Based on the movie, "The Secret," it reflects the power within thoughts. IF you thought about what you desire strong enough, it would appear in your life. This is where goal boards, dream boards all come into play. They seek to find that 'secret' to get all of what we desire most in life.

Pause your reading and spend some time writing down what you want most right now ... I'm confident there will be many different things each of you writes down. Connect with me @RestoredSoul5 on Instagram and Facebook, I go into this subject often and I always love when perspectives are shared.

It's time to find out what this Secret is to gain or get (I use the word manifest) whatever your heart desires. Yes, it is a real thing!

WARNING ONE: I will state this upfront, not to throw cold water on this exciting idea but to give you stability in understanding that using this gift is not to use it like a spoiled child to get whatever you want and if you don't get it exactly, you throw a temper tantrum. This is the response when the shadow side of expectation is in play. I know some of you reading this are guilty of that! How do I know, I've had plenty of temper tantrums. I now call them spiritual tantrums when I feel after all I can do, God still doesn't deliver what I asked for, yep, I place attachments and conditions on those situations often ... My life journey has become to understand why I do this, so I do have an answer for you. Keep reading.

WARNING TWO: When I get on the shadow side of expectation, I've learned The higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment. Read that again ~

First, you must have a few key principles you live by to be in a position to have access to manifesting as explained above. I share these principles in a FREE download I created, 3 Secrets to boost mental health.

It's yours if you want it .... lol, see what I did there? Ok, bad pun. On a serious note, it is free!

I like to call this 'secret' creation energy and I've named it Mo.

What makes Mo give you something or not? How can you get Mo to listen? How can you get Mo to follow through?

Click here for 'part-two' IF you want to learn more about Mo

How to bring the Invisible Visible; say what?

First I want to thank SammyJ for her blog. You can find her by clicking here. I also added her link to the photo.

My friend, Kristen Holland shared an insight with me that has had me pondering for a few days; “Greatness Lies within all of us ~ sometimes we just need to shift perspective to make the invisible visible to restore peace.”

Here’s what came up for me when I received her text. First, what is invisible that I’m attached too that I still haven’t found. I fully understand I can only heal what I have brought into awareness ~ so here’s my rambling mind: the invisible is just that, invisible which means I can’t bring an awareness to it because I can’t see it, which means if I can’t bring an awareness to it I’m not able to heal it. If I’m not able to heal it, the pattern remains active.

All this rambling is the justification of my conditioned mind, that ego mind that keeps me in my comfort zone. Once an awareness is brought up, my comfort zone has just become uncomfortable. For me it feels like I’m going to get caught doing something and get in trouble. A huge condition that has stayed with me living with an unstable mother. I never knew when I would get in trouble, I could be doing some thing good or not, it didn’t matter.

Can anyone relate to this?

We all strive to become a better human. I also believe we all strive to eliminate conflict from our life, as much as possible. Right? We are conditioned to be ‘good’ to overcome our ‘bad.’

During my pondering, I decided I wanted to score my life. Where do I feel I’m at right now. Measuring my level of happiness, my fulfillment, etc. I came up with the #6 out of 10. I have come a long way. I have overcome many challenges. I have went through difficult experiences to get to that #6.

Where do you score yourself?

Here’s my point. I am seeking to become even better than that #6. If I have invisible attachments, I stay in my rut. That #6 doesn’t change.

Remember that saying, “If you do what you’ve always done, you get what you’ve always gotten.”

That’s my point. The value of bringing those invisible attachments visible is the only way one can begin ‘bettering’ their life, the only way to increase your score of life happiness.

Here’s a few things I strive to undo … bring the invisible-ness visible so I have the power to shift my perspective in my life.

I am conscious enough to know there is more to this life. I know there is more happiness to be felt! Now how to find that next step.

I have grown children and I’m striving to ‘better’ my relationship with them. Now to learn how to communicate my love to them.

I had many negative emotions swirling around for years as I was a caregiver and I felt I was a better person already. I do energy work. I do many things each day that keeps me grounded and feeling ‘lightened,’ if you will. BUT, you see, if I was a better person I wouldn’t have felt those strong negative feelings. Now to continue to embrace my humanness and appreciate what I’ve been given. Remembering this is my life journey not a destination.

I chunked all these thoughts down and what came up for me was, obligation.

Obligation was the key attachment that NOW is visible.

Obligation is a sister to expectation. Obligation is like drinking or breathing out of a small straw. It’s difficult to get fully engaged because I’m already struggling to survive. This was where my negative emotions stayed.

So I said to myself, get a bigger straw.

Um, duh! You see, I have been figuring out how to survive with that small straw. I would change things up to give me a break, try something new BUT the whole time, it’s still the same small straw.

Are you getting my point? Is this making any sense?

What I’ve learned! Bringing the invisible visible, it gets messy. It may not make sense and it may not be logical. That’s how healing is done. It doens’t have to make sense to my conditioned mind, it only has to make sense to my highest self, that divine part of me where all healing resides.

I know who I am. I know my divine nature. I know that I am a spiritual being first having this physical experience. EVEN KNOWING this, I still have room for growth!

Follow #RestoredSoul5 on instagram to find a safe space to let go without judgment, expectation or obligation OR check out www.restored-soul.com

Namaste