Is there such a thing as Eternal Separation?

I’ve had so many thoughts swirling around in my head. You know from previous posts that I spend time analyzing and sorting my thoughts through writing. 

Here’s what I know, believing there is Eternal Separation is more harmful to our Spirits than embracing the truth of God’s love for all his children. What does YOUR gospel teach? It can’t be both ways, you must pick. IF you begin saying, “I believe this way IF” or “I believe that way because” …. be careful because you’re adding conditions to my question. 

Let me explain. In most religions, the ones I’m familiar with, there’s a belief there’s an afterlife. IF we live ‘good’ lives then we will be granted time with our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ and God the Father. We will live with them once more. Families are believed to be forever so, IF a family member strays, it’s heartbreaking on a whole new level, likened unto spiritual death. This happens on both sides. If a child strays from family beliefs, their fear of making this choice of forever being separated from their family, whom they love with all their heart is devastating. Even difficult family situations are better to live with than to feel eternally separated and alone. One major reason children hide their behavior from their parents. Fear of being eternally rejected and separated. What is sad is IF they stray, they’ve been taught they are bad, which is shame. Do you feel it appropriate to shame children into obedience? Does God shame us to obey? I don’t believe so, religion maybe, but not God!

Shame on parents for loving their beliefs over their child. 

Yes, that is a bold statement but I was one of those parents, so yes, I get this question and I’ve unpackaged it over the years. Today, I’m sharing with you what I’ve learned. 

Let’s talk about the word ‘stray.’ It holds the meaning of wandering, leaving the family to worry. IF parents feel they are losing control, because keeping their family members intact is what shows their commitment to God, the stronger they seek to hold on. IF they continue to stray and the parents or family members can’t hang onto them, fitting them in their family box of rules, beliefs, and attachments, then they surrender and begin blaming the person for wandering. It becomes their fault. The common belief is that the person wouldn’t have strayed if they cared about their family, etc. How sad that even has to be a potential thought! 

Think of the burden that destroys families believing in eternal separation. Think of the burdens parents self inflict by believing in this eternal separation. First and foremost, YOU are not God. YOU believe what you believe based on how you’ve interpreted the lessons you’ve learned. The religious beliefs you hold, and how they may or may not affect you and your family. 

I believe the most damaging is when we connect the word stray with sin. In a way, it justifies and gives us a way to make sense of how we must feel if something doesn’t go exactly how we’ve pictured it. 

During my search to understand, to gain some peace back into my life, to be the parent that loves no matter what, I read, “The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom” ~ by Don Miguel Ruiz

I know some would never pick this book up because he states in his first few pages, this is like a new religion. I believe he was striving to state that religion and gospel are two different things. Religion is the organization to create order and manage a large group of people. Much like a family, parents are there to create order and manage their household. The gospel, on the other hand, is the teachings we strive to learn that offer us peace and understanding in this physical world, those teachings that feed our soul. There are gosple TRUTHS and there are believed truths….I’ll get to that, I promise.

The chapter on what is sin stood out. I reread it multiple times to integrate the truth I felt was there. His definition: ‘a sin is when you go against your true self ~ who you are.” What does that mean? Again, I firmly hold the belief we are spiritual beings first, having a physical world experience, thus WHO we are is a spiritual being! When we go against our Divine Self we are sinning. Be careful here as well, because no one knows what agreements they’ve made with God as to their life journey. As a Divine being, we hold and have a Divine nature without any doubts or questions! Period!

When I imagine God’s love or my Divine Self, I can see the duality of energy within us much like a dimmer switch; the light and dark energy that we each hold, and whichever one wins is the one that’s fed. You know those switches that you push up to turn lights on bright, push down to dim the lights and if you pushed it all the way down, the light goes out. Let’s use this analogy. First, no matter how dark it may seem, the power source is ALWAYS connected, right? As Spiritual beings, your divine light can never, and I mean NEVER go out. It can dim but it can not go out. You are always connected to Source! This source, when you go against it is Sin according to Don Miguel Ruiz, which dims your light. How does that feel to you? 

Let me separate TRUTHS and truths as I promised for you. IF I asked you where the sun sets, what would you say? Would you say the East, or would you say in the West? Believe me, I’ve heard both answers over time. Your answer is going to be based on what you’ve been taught, what you believe, right? So if I said to you, both of these are wrong answers, you begin to feel the prickle to argue? The TRUTH is the sun doesn’t set, the earth rotates around the sun. The truth is what you believe. Big difference, right? 

Back to my original question: Is there such a thing as Eternal Separation?

The TRUTH is NO. We are here in this physical world to do our best with what we know and learn. The truth is based on what you believe. Be careful when judgment is made based on perspective! Nothing but harm comes from that, for all who are involved. 

Let’s ask this, so what happens when a child strays? What about a spouse? That child or spouse has come to earth to walk their journey. They’ve come to you to learn what will best serve them. There are no accidents of who cross’ your path. Not ONE person is a mistake or an accident! That path, I believe wholeheartedly, is a path of a Divine nature and no one knows what that path is except the person and God! Yep, even those who may cross your path who may have harmed you (click here for a good read to gain this perspective) AND when most people hear me say this I always get a question in response, “So you’re telling me it’s my fault I’ve been treated like this?” or “So you’re telling me I created this hell I live in?” That’s a topic for another post. Let me say this when you remove the layers of our psychological filters, the TRUTH is our manifested world is a reflection of the story we hold within, those inner truths. If you have more questions, please connect with me at 

The bottom line shows straying is a journey, right? Going away from the herd mentality of obedience. Obedience to what? Family values or God’s TRUTH? Society’s perception of how relationships should look? 

Would you agree, heartache then comes when you feel your loved ones are straying from YOUR journey? 

I will send you off with light and love. If you have any questions, please reach out, my goal is to guide you to peace, confidence, and love in all relationships. Remember, this is a post to analyze where TRUTH is found and how it fits in life. 

The end result to this question is; It’s a Divine CORE belief there IS no Eternal Separation but our conditioned mind has created the fear around the idea, teaching, or interpretation of Eternal Separation …..

TRUTH or truth? 

BLAME is to Blame!

During this time of social distancing (Covid19, 2020), my thoughts and dreams have gone toward facing my family’s challenges. I guess with all this free time I feel I have, my thoughts go toward creating ways to serve them, to teach supporting lessons, or to simply have the time to process the sadness we’ve gone through over this past year. Thus, this blog post. I used the spartan race obstacle for the featured photo because I participated in that race and by far, crawling under that wire was one of the most difficult obstacles I faced.

I’m on the left, my daughter on the right……….. the picture was taken after the finish line!

Blame is a hidden destroyer!

Blame is the seed of divorce, frustration, trauma, hatred, and bad relationships!

Blame is more of a plague than the Covid19 we are faced with this March 2020!

In scriptures, Blame is the flaxen cord (2 Nephi 26:22) that binds us to sin and evil!

Blame is what keeps us separated from our Divine-Self!

Blame negates healing!

Blame is an addiction no one sees!

How does one combat blame?

Together, let’s begin to understand why. Please, email me at to share your thoughts, insights, questions, or concerns. I sincerely would love to hear from you.

Life is about going the distance; “Enduring to the end,” they say.

I firmly believe we are spiritual beings FIRST, having a physical or earthly experience. With that said, our goal in this life is to ‘remember’ who we are, that of a spiritual being, given opportunities to reconnect to our Divine self! Our physical body is the vehicle that houses the duality within, the positive or the negative. This Indian story gives a great description of what is meant by the duality within…The Fight of Two Wolves Within You

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life:

“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.

“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil–he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and called ego.” (The author of lies, the wolf of DO-ing, like a never-ending treadmill, addicted to exhaustion and chaos)

He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith (The author of love, the wolf of BE-ing, taking the time to spiritually refuel, recharge and reconnect to TRUTH)

The same fight is going on inside you–and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

Let me just say, these wolves in this Indian story look identical, very much like identical twins. That is life’s challenge and the only way to know which wolf you feed is to understand what characteristics each wolf has

The identifying features of one are anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority. This wolf is named EGO.

The other wolf is identified by joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. This wolf is named SPIRIT.

The experiences, trials, and challenges we face are taught in this classroom, I call life, for the sole reason being given the gift of choice, to feed our divine self and understand our divine nature, remaining true to who we are versus believing the lies we readily accept from satan, the natural man, or the ego, whatever name you wish to use.

I have fallen into the trap of feeding that damn wolf of ‘DOing’ versus the wolf of ‘BEing’ more times than I’d like to admit but, what got me to shift from the DO-ing to more of the BE-ing was when I understood the wolf I sought to feed was in fact, ‘feeding the Christ within me.’ That Christ’s energy; the energy that is in line with the same purpose as God. That Divine energy, that Creation energy, and that Universal energy of love. I began to own which wolf I fed! Once that lesson finally sunk in I stopped BLAMING the negative side of myself. I then found it easier to identify which wolf I was feeding, because I believed in my true nature!

It took years to overcome but throughout my life, I would force myself to eat, be, and do 100% all the time, blaming my inadequacies, failures, and nourished self-loathing for way too many years! With all that blame, I hurt and my family suffered!

I physically and emotionally hurt!

I’m all about doing even better today than yesterday but when your focus is always on blame and all that you lack, you receive more lack – which in essence is feeding the DO-ing wolf.

You can never DO enough, but you ARE always enough

So I’ll ask, which wolf do seek to feed? Which wolf are you willing to give up to BEcome all you can BE? Remember, what is yours will never be withheld from you as long as you seek universal truth.

Here’s some wisdom from Colette Baron-Reid: “Your authenticity alone will keep you in alignment with the energy of miracles.

I invite you to consider joining us at the Restored-Soul Retreat, a place where you can realign, refuel, recharge, and reconnect back to source.

What Happens When Your SOUL is Empty? Here’s why it’s more important than you think

When your soul is filled, recharged, and refueled you can breathe a little easier, right! Life’s chaos isn’t as overwhelming as it usually is when your soul’s battery is FULL. Your situations haven’t changed, but when your soul is filled, it feels like you can handle whatever comes your way. But then, there are times, when your soul’s battery is low and it’s a struggle to just get out of bed. Here’s why!

Think of your soul as your cell phone. You connect to others daily, much like you talking on your phone. Each time you give of yourself, as a mom, as a daughter, as a friend, as an employee, as a boss, it’s like talking on your cell phone. Over time, your battery needs to get recharged, right? We are quick to plug in our phone but why do we procrastinate recharging our souls? When we forget to recharge our souls, we do show up but show up less than our optimum self. I believe it’s because we don’t know how to recharge effectively, and now those outdated coping skills are no longer working and we feel it.

Here’s what I know, your soul is filled through energetically connecting to spirit. To do that, as an introvert, it takes some time to understand you may require to refuel more often. So for your gift, today; Enjoy this high-level vibrational music

First, put some earphones in and turn the volume up to feel the music, not too loud to hurt your ears but loud enough to feel the musical frequency. Second, spend some time feeling and absorbing the vibration. Third, imagine this music filling up your heart with Divine frequency or fourth, spend time writing, or typing for a few minutes, emptying your mind. Giving you time to do a simple recharge right now. 

At the restored-soul retreat, we share powerful exercises like this so you return home knowing exactly what fills your soul and how to do it.

Most of us don’t understand what it’s like to be an introvert, I’m not even sure introverts fully understand the importance of self-care. We know solitude feels much better than a crowd but why then do we continue to feel depleted? Some attend church every week to be spiritually fed but return home more exhausted than fed. Some introverts believe they do focus on self-care but then can’t understand why it doesn’t last. The important point here about introverts, it’s not how they show up in life it’s how they recharge. As an introvert, I can be in charge of a group, I can teach, or I can speak in public but when my soul requires recharging, I know the importance of saying ‘no’ without feeling guilty or obligated in any way.

When you’re ready to amp-up your self-care in a safe space and feel ready to take life to the next level, I invite you to check out the Restored-Soul retreat! See you when you’re ready…