How an Introvert FILL’s their Imaginary Emotional Pitcher. The answer may shock you!

"You can't pour from an empty pitcher." "To fill up your pitcher with the spirit, one must remove self." And there is more because this is a popular subject. I've added a few of the links that wrote around an empty pitcher. They each have their take on it. One is about family dynamics. Another one is about removing self (which my language says, remove the Ego to be filled with the spirit. First off, the ego plays an important part in this physical world so managing it is a much better spiritual teacher than removing it, in my opinion) Another is directed at moms, giving them permission to fill their cup too. However, this blog is specific to how an introvert fills this imaginary emotional, spiritual pitcher.

Imagine the scenario of you holding an empty pitcher, what needs to be done to 'fill it? Exactly, putting something IN to fill it.

We can visualize 'filling' it with spirit, but then why do we still feel empty?

We can visualize filling it with love, but then why do we still feel empty?

We can visualize filling it with service, but then again, we feel empty!

I have used this visualization for years and it's done a good job for me. I 'fill' my empty pitcher with self-love or self-care. You know the basics. If I'm not prepared, I'm not able to serve those around me. I've held onto the saying, 'I can't give what I don't have. " That for me means I can not give love without feeling loved. I can't give to others if I'm empty. So all that self-care is to love myself with what fills me with joy. I can't be there for others if I'm not there for myself. You get the visual, right?

Then it hit me WHY it feels like my pitcher is like a boat with a hole in it, water keeps seeping out and all my energy is looking for that damn hole!

Now we can get into specifically what does all this mean for an introvert?

Think about it! Would an introvert begin yelling for people to come to help find the hole in their boat? I don't think so. Just visualizing me yelling for people to come help me brings all sorts of anxiety. First, a judgment is straight out of the gate as to why there's a hole. Second, the time it would take to explain why I think there's a hole and get them to 'agree' or take me seriously is exhausting! Third, if I was a better person there wouldn't be a hole, to begin with.

Can you see a theme following all my reasons for not yelling for help? I am not comfortable with receiving it! There's a simple but powerful answer.

This world is a world of opposition. It's a world of give and take. Introverts are so good at giving but find receiving difficult. When they receive it feels uncomfortable.

Why is this? 

Because an introvert is so use to the blackhole effect, they've attached receiving with it

If an introvert asks for help, they are bringing attention to themselves. That attention brings up the unspoken judgements; They didn't do something right, or they are critisized for needing help, or whatever ridiculous judgment that comes to the surface, it's still a judgment

An introvert wants to be seen as a kind person which holds the idea of expectations and there comes the obligatory receiving. 

Receiving IS our spiritual refueling! 

Receiving IS our spiritual recharging!

Receiving IS our spiritual reconnecting! 

Without learning how to receive in a way that removes the spotlight, then naturally an introvert shys away from receiving. Period! They remain unfulfilled, empty, exhausted, overwhelmed, dissatisfied, or trapped.

If you are ready to learn how and experience the power of receiving, within a safe space, without judgment then get on The Restored-Soul's waiting list.

The Restored-Soul is the event that offers an introvert tools on how to safely fill their imaginary emotional pitchers!  

Have you ever considered that deep inside, you are just a witness, eternally silent, aware and unchanged? ~Osho

This blog is for my soul tribe!

Are you an introvert, empathic, intuitive woman? Maybe you don’t know or want to admit you are intuitive because you fear the repercussions of others finding out. You’ve already felt the disapproval of family members, maybe you feel you’re just crazy. Well, you’re not! What about feeling the disapproval within your church? Today, you have permission to stop shutting your gift down and staying silent because others don’t understand. Please stop trying to be someone or something you’re not….. therefore, my featured photo says it all! It’s time to come back to life!

Be ready to flourish into something more beautiful than you can imagine at this moment. Stayed tuned, I have a few events focused on YOU! 

Intuitive and empathic women see glimpses through the veil. Those glimpses are moments when illusions are starting to burn away. Not like a hot flame but a cool flame of awareness. It’s like seeing something no one else can see or feel. Do you say anything? Do you stay quiet? 

This awareness that is growing in you now is not the result of any conscious ‘doing’ nor do you need to struggle to make something happen. It naturally happens and I typically find it takes MORE energy to shut this gift off. Like in the movie, Frozen. Anna wore gloves over her hands and isolated herself from others. Going out in public is exhausting. Keeping the shield of being normal up, gets heavy. Small talk is more exhausting than it should be! Being in a group is exhausting! You’re maybe sensitive to others’ energy. Showing up for how the world wants you too, is exhausting! Isolating yourself is not a healthy choice. Again today, let yourself settle, allow the channel of awareness to open, let this become a center of witnessing for you. 


My story? It started when I was as young as five. I knew I was different but didn’t know how I was different. I had experienced; I hear things, I sense things and that created difficult situations with others. Feeling so alienated is not a fun way to grow up. It was lonely. Why else would I do and say some of the strange things people rejected me for? Why was it so hard to participate in small talk? Maybe it was me, I was the mistake! 

I managed by saying, that’s because I have red hair. I was a rare anomaly! People would stare, people would call me names, people would accept me but not get to close. Pat me on the head and give off the energy that felt like they were thinking; see she isn’t that smart and doesn’t know what she is saying. Don’t take her too seriously! She’ll grow out of it.

For example: When I was a young girl, I could carry on deep conversations about God, the difference between our Soul and mind with adults. It was like I was good at math but in my case, I was good with the metaphysical topics. If my parents’ friends had a question, they’d come to me. After I said what I thought, they’d look at me like a true alien and ask, how do you know this? That’s a pretty deep answer for such a young girl. That would confuse me because it was natural for me, no big deal. It was like they were asking me the characters in a comic strip and I knew them, then they were surprised I knew them. 

Another example: when I was a young mother my husband and I were participating in a neighborhood group activity. I knew the other ladies but not well. We’d say hi as we saw each other but never had a seriously deep conversation that included feelings, sharing, or any ‘friendship.’ 

This one day, I got so excited because I just found out I was pregnant, (around this pregnancy is another story for another time) but I was excited because one of these other ladies were going to have a baby too, at the same time. Why was this awkward? Because she didn’t know she was pregnant yet. Oops! I swear I thought she told me, but then I thought back, when have I ever spoken to her before today? But I knew, I also knew she was going to have a boy, born on August 5th of the next year. I also knew my baby was going to be born on July 27th. I held zero doubt! … did it all happen the way I said? Yes, it did

Can you imagine the look and reaction I got from this woman? What a way to find out such news. I’m confident you are imagining the right level of horror she felt, how could I know something so personal about her? Do you think she avoided me from then on? You’d be correct. I was the weird lady now in the neighborhood. I’m confident the rumors spread to avoid me. I scared them, rightfully so. I just remember, I believed we’d had that conversation. I believed she told me. I knew the details so clearly, it scared me. But when I see that look of horror on their face, I’ve learned over the years, how to back-peddle fast!

Again, another example: When my daughter was at a friends house, it was time for her to be home. I didn’t have a phone number, and this was before cell phones, and I didn’t have an address. So I got in the car and began ‘finding’ her. My husband came along because his part was to soften the blow of his crazy wife going to strange houses late at night. I did ‘my thing.’ I drove and took roads I felt were correct and found the house I was going to go knock on the door and bring my daughter home. Now my husband got scared, he envisioned so many things that could happen. I wasn’t scared at all because I knew! I knew this was the house. So I went to the door, keep in mind, it was after 10:30 pm. I knocked. I waited and my daughter answered the door. She was shocked and then mad because I found her! My husband was shocked that I found her. I don’t think he believed me when I said I’d find her and go knock on doors that late. And for me, I just went on with my plan. Get her in the car and go home. 

First, let me say these thoughts do not come on demand! They come when I am in a space of listening, feeling, and awareness. I’ve spent years learning to understand my gifts, now it’s your turn! Why? Because I remember the exact day I gained permission from someone, who later became my treasured mentor. 

Here’s my story of when I gained permission. I still can feel the fear that ran through me! Yet, I’ll be eternally grateful she had the confidence to say I had permission to use my gift. 

You see, I was in a conference and was assigned to take care of this woman, a guest speaker. I was to get her to the event on time, take her back to where she was staying, etc. I was so efficient! I even knew when she needed to use the restroom and would go into action moving people away from her, clearing the path for her. She’d ask, how’d you know? I just did. Then one night, it was late and we were in Salt Lake City. I am not familiar with this city, AND this was before google! I knew she hadn’t eaten and it was after 10:00 pm. I was hungry too! I asked her if she could have anything for dinner, what food would she choose. She answered GREEK. This would be a test for sure! I took a deep breath and did ‘my thing.’ I drove around and the only thought that kept coming to my mind was to find, “The Other Place Restaurant” we’d eaten at several times. I knew they had good food and quite frankly, this was the only place I really knew about in Salt Lake but wasn’t even sure they’d still be open. I thought, at least we’d get dinner, right? SO we kept driving until I found it. She was so surprised and asked, “how did you find this?” Not until I looked up did I understand what she meant.

On their sign, it showed: Greek, Mediterranean, Breakfast & Brunch.

I found it! During dinner, which was so good, we talked about my intuition. I kept directing the conversation away from it but she kept bringing it back. And then on the drive back to her place, she looked at me and said, “You’re really intuitive! Why are you hiding your gift? You have my permission to be intuitive! 

I couldn’t speak for a few minutes. No one and I mean NO ONE has ever accepted me for me, until that moment. She told me more about her work and her story of knowing she was different and when she stepped into her power. It was a life-changing evening for me! 

Of course, there are many more stories I could share but I won’t, you get the idea, right?

Intuitive gifts come in different forms and different ways, do you know yours? 

Empathic gifts come in different forms and different ways, do you know yours? 

Are you curious about what it means to STEP INTO YOUR POWERFUL GIFTS?

Are you curious about what it means to AMP UP YOUR POWERFUL GIFTS? 

Can you imagine what it’s like to genuinely be heard, understood, and accepted? 

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Have you felt your days are filled with judgment from life? and you’re ready to release that heavy burden?

Those burdens feel like a car stuck in the mud? The more you respond the deeper the ruts of judgement and the heavier the burden feels. 

Have you ever felt that society is like pleasing a mean school teacher? and you’re ready to get back centered to what serves YOU?

Feeling like you’re ready to BURST free of societies prison, if you just had the courage? YES, today, I give you that permission to re-evaluate your priorities without getting into trouble. It’s ok to feel like you are off track because there’s a way to get back centered! 

Have you found yourself seeking to be understood, and when that doesn’t easily happen, you stay quiet? Now you’re not only dealing with frustrations but the feelings of being dismissed are crushing!

These negative feelings are like pushing you off a cliff. Nothing to grab, fear sets in, and defeat sucks! 

Have you attended church on Sunday’s and still felt spiritually hungry? Then you find yourself reverting back to your ‘comfort’ behaviors, even though they really don’t ‘fill’ you up?

You are a spiritual being first, having a physical experience. Feeling spiritually hungry is like eating all the wrong foods. You are striving to satisfy your phsycial hunger when your spirit is starving. It’s time, my friend to eat! 

You feel you have friends but very few ‘get’ you? And it’s exhausting to go out and do small talk just to socialize?

Have you considered that introverts are around for a reason? Intuition and Empathic abilities are not found in small talk …. just saying! 

First, YOU are not alone!

Second, your spiritual sensitivity is sending you a message.

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